have you ever thought about deciding who you want to be? it’s one of those gifts often overlooked i think. with no preamble you can start deciding just who it is you would most like to be. do you want to be funny and witty and the social butterfly of your neighborhood? or become more of a reader, gardener, politico? do you want to be the person who throws the best parties or camps every weekend? do you want to become a wine aficionado or wordsmith? do you want to wear dresses every day and capture a modern fifties look or start paying attention to your hair and make-up even though you’ve never given it much thought before? who do you want to be?
we can be whoever (unless you want to be a great opera singer and you sound like kermit the frog). but for the most part you can say i want to be… and become that. when i was younger i had learned habits of being quickly defensive, developed out of a need to be strong and not realizing there were other options. but i didn’t want to be that person. i very consciously decided i wanted to be a person who was calm and handled things as such, not quick with the tongue to be regretted later. and i did it. (not perfect mind you, there are moments)
i want to be a person who laughs a lot. i want to be generous of spirit, accepting not judging, listen more than talk. and kind. kindness is way up there, to be a kind person under all circumstances. i want to be a good friend, a good neighbor, a good daughter and very much a good wife. i want to write authentically on this blog. share and hope it reaches out somewhere and lands and is good. i want to dress great daily (man it’s hard to make the extra effort for the cute outfit when you know you’re not going anywhere.. but that will be the day someone drops in unexpectedly if i don’t), because it makes a difference in how i feel, and it never hurts to feel like i’m putting my best dressed leg forward. these are parts of the person i want to be.
there are many things i want to be, more to be shared in a future post. the idea is to start now thinking about who you want to be and to do it. practice and you will become.