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one of the tricks to creating and enjoying more happiness is : don’t take anything personally. when you don’t take what others say or do (in regards to you) personally, then the angst, frustration, disappointment and anger has nowhere to take root. we all have people that are not our biggest fans, many can be as close as your immediate family or next door neighbor or cubicle work partner. no matter what nastiness they spew your way, it has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.
everyone has their own unique set of issues and perceptions and those color their words and judgements, and not always for the pretty. if you can move from taking what they say and think personally to letting it be their thoughts alone, you win. very few people go through life without being left off a christmas list or two…. so, if you’re part of that majority, as i am too, not taking stuff personally can be one of the most freeing and happiness inducing things you do. of the people who aren’t sending me love and light everyday.. i don’t ever think of them. i don’t care what they think, i don’t lose sleep over them, i don’t get upset about what they say or do, it all means nothing to me.
people have perceptions fueled by their judgements and history and habits and if you can be ok with that, put stock only in what you think, what you believe, then you are free to be as happy as you want to be. don’t let what others think be the deciding factor on how you feel. at the end of the day the most important thing you can do is try to be the best you can be, and if you do that day in and day out you can go to sleep free and not caught up in he said, she said. don’t get your feathers all puffed up, when you can just as easily let it not matter.
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Very well said. I try and help my students see this very thought and you would be surprised how many don’t believe me. Some eventually come around, but a lot are just too caught up in their own things and their own lives that they can’t believe others are dealing with their own battles.
thanks kara (; and it’s so nice that you’re trying to share thoughts and ideas like this with your students.. even if only one gets it, it’s so worth it!! t.
Good stuff!
Well said…I find for me that happiness is a bit of work. It’s work well worth doing. The key is cherrishing the people who do appreciate us. My facebook page is more of a gratitude journal. My photos are a good reminder of the beauty that surrounds me. I need these reminders or I go dark really really dark. The smallest of things can pull me back.
Great post.
thank you so much for both of your thoughtful comments! i really appreciate it (; and i wholeheartedly agree.. cherish those that appreciate us, too short of time to bother with those that don’t!!! xo, tiffany