do you ever find yourself saying…but, we’ve been friends for 15 years.. or we’ve been best friends forever, or we’ve known each other for 6 years. probably sounds familiar right? but have you ever thought about the fact that the more accurate statement might be…we were best friends when we were kids or we were thick as thieves 15 years ago, or 5 years ago. big difference in the two. do you have “friends” like these? people that you were compatible with then, had so much fun with then, had so much in common with then, but now.. not so much. now, you are married and they aren’t or you own a business and have goals & aspirations and they still have friday night and the bar as the goal. or they want to go out on the town every weekend and you want to see what redbox has in stock this week, or you have tons of interests and hobbies and they bring nothing to the table. trying to keep ties with people that you’ve outgrown can be exhausting and a colossal waste of time, theirs and yours.
not everyone is meant to be around forever. some people are fabulous and fun and just perfect for the right now (or right then). they will come into your life, be amazing, and then if you both allow it to go as easily as it came when the time comes you’ll fade away or they will and it will be ok. if you constantly hang onto that that does not work anymore you leave no room for something/someone new that will. and luckily for all of us we will most certainly have people that are forevah friends… don’t hang on so tight that you’re trying to make everyone a forever friend. as kids we knew this, we met people, we were inseparable, friendship bracelets flew, we talked on the phone for hours (after spending all day together), some stuck, some didn’t but we moved on as all good 5, 10 and 15 year olds do. we didn’t lament it for days and weeks and months and years. we were way too busy meeting more people and creating new bonds. don’t get stuck in were, it’s a lonely place. and your new forever best friend might be the next person you meet.