there’s a little whirlwind in the blog-o-sphere this week. it’s all about authenticity and the portrayal of real life versus pretty blog life. i read about it on a blog i recently started following and love (go here to read), and it all got started here. do you have things pop up that have been percolating for awhile and then all of a sudden it’s everywhere? that’s what this was like for me, kind of.

i say kind of because i don’t really mind so much that blogs don’t share lots of daily stresses, tales of woe, i mean.. inspired over depressed right? (fyi – the challenge being put forth is to put less of a perfect shine on life and be more real) but, i am frustrated with the blog world all the same. a few things i’ve thought, but not shared (and kudos! to all that are sharing their thoughts too, a complete link list by ez of creature comforts, thanks for getting us all together!).

1. everyone gushes about how open and friendly the blog world is and how they’ve met TONS of other bloggers. uhmm… i’ve actually become good friends with one, and have been surprisingly disappointed with responses or rather lack of responses from many. maybe stats have to be at a certain level before the responses flow? (and i’m referring to direct emails, etc.. not just general love your post comments) for example, i contacted a local blogger by email, introduced myself and asked if she would be interested in getting together for coffee, etc. that i was new to town and trying to reach out and meet people. i got a one line response back saying that if she gets a group workshop together in the future she would contact me. what? i was totally confused. but it was a response….

2. i am 100% behind doing your own thing on your blog, make it yours, create your own good stuff. BUT. and this has really been bothering me. i can’t tell you how many big time blogs shout to the rooftops about original content… i’m with you, with you, with you… until i see the same photo on 10 of said original content bloggers. and this past month i swear at least that many all had the original content of how great method brand cleaners are (i too love them, but this is not the point) and if not method, some other fabulous eco friendly cleaner. i am finding it hard to believe that all of these bloggers had this same, unique idea all in the same two week time span?

3. i’m not totally on board with facebook and constant social meida. it’s really not my thing, but everyone says you need facebook!!! twitter!!! instagram!! flickr!! oh and the blog of course. where’s the blog in all of this? i actually am, very late into the game i might add, becoming more of a fan of twitter. but i just wonder could blogs be popular just through the actual blog? what about that?

4. i wish more people commented. it shouldn’t matter. but sometimes it does. and it’d be nice.

5. i’ll blog as long as i feel good about it, most of the time i really enjoy it, but sometimes…. if it’s just me and three other people, maybe we should just facetime. (;

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34 Responses to “blogland”

  1. Laura says:

    Well, I can speak for myself and say I love your blog and it’s originality! I’m with you on the whole ” seeing the same thing over and over again” on some of my favorite blogs and pinterest! Keep up the good work, but I’m good with Facetime too! Ha ;)

    • tiffany says:

      lg.. thank you so much! i’m glad to hear it’s not just me that feels like i’m seeing reruns (; out there in blogland.. and for commenting!!

  2. Molly says:

    I’ve thought about all of these things in depth and have considered not blogging anymore, but in the end, I decided that I blog as much for myself as to share & connect with others. Still, I totally understand the frustrations that can crop up.

    I’ve never met another blogger, or really become even email pals with any. We’ve emailed here & there, but nothing consistent.

    The social media sites is something I struggle with, too. I’m not very active on them, but when I’ve voiced that I’m thinking about stopping then several people have asked me not to because that’s how they keep up on my posts. Like you said, it’s too bad blogs can’t just be popular through the blog itself.

    I liked this post a lot and I really enjoy your blog. :)

    • tiffany says:

      isn’t funny how connected we actually are when we realize that our common thread of blogging is actually making us feel and wonder about the same things? and i’ve experienced the same thing with fb.. i flip flip about continuing and then someone says that’s how they follow and then i keep at it. (; i *so much* appreciate your comment today (and in the past!!!) thank you!!!!! xo, t.

  3. LindseyJo says:

    I linked over to the posts and what a breath a fresh air! It’s funny, this authenticity is exactly why I whittled my bloglovin blog roll in half…couldn’t have put into words like the three of you did though! And after reading your and the other two posts, it helped me realize how this needs to spill over in real life so we can all escape from our rat races:).

    • tiffany says:

      ahhhh.. that’s what i thought too! and i have been purging away on my bloglovin’ blog roll too (; and am enjoying the fewer blogs so much more!! xo, t.

  4. Ez says:

    Thank you so much for such a candid and though-proviking post Tiffany! Of course I feel like I have to add in a little note about the “Method” influx, since I’m one of those blogs that you’ve seen them pop up on. Method is currently running an online campaign, and working with several bloggers to do it. I try to make it clear on my posts when they have been sponsored…and honestly I think everyone is kind of required to do that (maybe not everyone knows that?)…but I can see how a flood of the same content sprinkled around blogland can make you wonder what the beep is going on. I really appreciate your thoughts about that! And finally to bring this back around to you…and the wonderful way that you shared, thank you for your honesty and for being a part of this blog challenge! I would love to include your link over on my blog amongst the growing list of awesome participating bloggers. Would that be okay with you?
    xo Ez

    • tiffany says:

      first i have to laugh! i didn’t know there was an ad campaign haha!! and i do think bloggers are good about sharing when it’s sponsored but after a few of the posts on method i quit reading so there you go, i totally missed it! it’s still something (in general) that i do see.. a lot of the same things being posted about, and it’s frustrating in terms of original content, but, i am very glad you shed the light on this one because i was like really? everyone? method cleaners now!!! haha.. i love it. and thank you for taking time to read my entry into this wonderful challenge, what a difference you are making!! i would be so happy to have you include my link! thank you, thank you!! xo, t.

  5. Ez says:

    Thanks Tiffany! I’m going to go over and add your link right now.
    And I thought I’d add a second thought in here as well…a lot of bloggers get the same product pitches emailed to them (me included). We don’t have to post about the pitched products of course, but sometimes everyone loves a product and does (that happened with some colorful bento boxes I recently blogged about). It’s kind of embarrassing as a blogger when this happens. Not because it’s a secret that the story was pitched to you…but because you DO want to be the first one to share something and be original. It’s all kind of silly really. Your post has made me think a lot. Thank you for that. xo Ez

    • tiffany says:

      thanks ez!
      my girlfriend and i were chatting about this in more detail and i think what would make it better is if the person blogging was like: hey.. i’m getting paid some do re me to post about this, and i couldn’t be more happy about it because a. money rocks and b. i really love this product and then say why they love it.. like with method if they had offered to pay me to promote i would have been like heck yeah! i always need some cash (who doesn’t) and i have used method since the minute it hit the shelves in target, and here’s why i use it… more funny, blunt, here’s the deal.
      **you have helped me understand why i do see so much repeat within the blog world, so thank you!!** t.

  6. LindseyJo says:

    Oh snap, I love this! I always wonder about this when I read a post from a blog recommending a product. Does the blogger really like this product or are they just plugging it for the $$. I definitely get turned onto products from bloggers that tell me up front, “BTW, I am not being paid to market this…or BWT, how fun is it that I am making some moolah to plug a product that I LOVE and have used for years…let me tell u bout it people!!” I also appreciate when a blogger says, “ok, I haven’t tried this but I am going to and I will let ya’ll know about it”. Then there is (for me), a seperation from the advertising that is on the sidebars and the personal content I rely on as being authentic from the author. Does that make sense? Love this topic girls, and I have never commented so much on one!!:)

  7. Casey says:

    Hi Tiffany! I found your blog on the CC list and I just wanted to say: I totally hear you! I blog because I enjoy it and I think it’s a cool catalog of what’s going on in my creative life, but I also get discouraged when I don’t have tons of views/comments. I’ve also mustered up courage to contact other bloggers via email (it’s tough!) only to never hear anything back. I can only take so much social media, so I pick an choose what seems to work for me. Seriously, I can’t spend 8 hours a day on it!
    Thanks for sharing. :)

    • tiffany says:

      hello!! i am working my way through the cc list and can’t wait to pop over to you (;

      sometimes i’ll blog something that i put a lot of extra energy into or it’s just something i’m really excited about and phoo. nothing. it can be deflating to say the least. but i am really glad you commented on the reaching out to other bloggers, i have reached out only when i thought credible, there was something specific, etc. etc. and to have nothing in response, i just do not understand. i use john & sherry of as great examples regarding this… they have to be the busiest bloggers ever. seriously. books, a baby, diy – which i know first hand takes about a billion times longer than it looks – and an insanely popular blog full of comments and every single time i have emailed them, and every time i have commented with something specific (not just good job!) they have responded. i feel like if bloggers as busy as they are can respond, then what the heck is the problem with the no response from most others?! so thanks for letting me know it isn’t *just me* that this happens to!!! thank you so much for commenting (; xo, t.

  8. Kudos to you for being so open about your feelings on this stuff. I think a lot of people feel this way about at least some of the points you made, and I think it’s awesome that you were brave enough to say. Thank you for leaving a comment on my blog so I was able to find yours! :)

    • tiffany says:

      thank you for popping over, i’m happy to have found your blog! and am loving this ongoing discussion… it’s nice to know that others feel or experience the same things in this big space of blogland (; xo, t.

  9. Kara says:

    I love your blog and I should have left you many comments before now. I love checking in to see the progress on your house and I loved reading about your travels. There are so many blogs out there that just don’t feel very authentic to me and that is certainly not the case with yours at all.

    • tiffany says:

      kara, you are so sweet to say that our blog feels authentic to you, such a wonderful compliment, and keeping it real, and ours versus phony baloney (; is so important to me as i pull it all together so thank you so much!!! and, as a side note, we can’t wait to start traveling some more and have that to share again!! we’re trying to plot and plan some getaways soon (; made my day miss kara! xo, t.

  10. Laura says:

    I came to your post from some of the others blogging the same topic. I’m confused about the “original content” bit from bloggers as well. It seems like so many blogs out there are just posting about cool videos, interesting artsy ideas, objects of beauty… they have found online, but hardly creating anything new. I get why pinterest took off, since it basically does what so many design blogs do. While I have enjoyed stumbling upon some really cool things online that I wouldn’t have found on my own, I don’t really get how these people earn money off of aggregating and linking to pretty things other people have posted online.

    • tiffany says:

      it is interesting isn’t it?! i have several blogs that i so enjoy but the ones that i love and can’t wait to check our are most definitely blogs that are more personally oriented versus, shiny pretty objects. i love a good mix of both, but definitely with the personal as the founding platform. thank you so much for checking out my spot in the blogworld and for commenting! xo, t.

  11. Just discovered your blog through a link about this whole campaign! I really admire your openness and honesty. I too believe that sometimes the blogging world can be a bit too “perfect” at times and it can be hard not to compare yourself to others, especially more successful bloggers. Comparison traps are easy to fall into!

    But on the same note, it is a great community and inspires me all the time. I also love finding great new blogs (like yours) on a regular basis.

    • tiffany says:

      at the end of the day, it really is an exciting, creative community and i am so very happy to be a part of it (; and i too am so enjoying finding new blogs and also just reading various thoughts on the subject matter via this great discussion.. thanks so much for commenting!! t.

  12. Jenny says:

    Oh so there with you on #1, 4 & 5. I’ve been toiling at my blog for 3 years have few followers and hardly any commenters. I know the blog is mostly just for my outlet, but sometimes I’d like a little nibble – ha!

    • tiffany says:

      i hear you honey, just a nibble right?!! (; blogging has taught me so much, it has been and is such a great learning experience, but there are those days…. (; xo, t.

  13. Jennifer says:

    OMG! 23 comments, holy sheester and congrats, guess it’s not just you and three others needing some facetime! Love it!

  14. Haylee says:

    The response you got from that local blogger makes me so mad. Seriously what the heck? At least now you can sleep better at night knowing she definitely wasn’t worth your time.

    • tiffany says:

      haha! i must say i was completely taken off guard, i was like whaaaattt?? you just never know do you? (; thank you so much for commenting!! xo, t.

  15. Gena says:

    I found you through the Things I’m Afraid to Tell You thing, and can I say how relieved I am to know that there are other writers out there who feel a little lost in the blogging world? I’ve seriously been at this on and off for years now, and no matter how hard I try it seems as though the only people who really bother reading, or at least commenting, are people I already knew from elsewhere. It’s frustrating, especially since I have pretty much no idea how to change it.

    • tiffany says:

      gena! i hear you honey! it’s a learning curve for sure (; thank you so much for commenting, i really do love hearing from new people and will pop over and visit you for sure! it’s such an amazing thing this blogging world, even if it is a bit of a rollercoaster (; xo, t.

  16. Susan says:

    Yes Yes Yes… agree agree I didn’t read your blog before but I will now. Thanks for your honesty.

  17. Lin says:

    Hi Tiffany,
    I saw your blog on Gone With the Wynns. I agree, don’t know why it matters if people comment but it does. Even though my blog is mostly for me to document the things I deem are important in our life, it’s nice to know people are reading & enjoying. I ran into someone @ the store today that said she is planning a trip based on the blog. That is HUGE for me!! Anyway, I’ll be reading you now too. :)

    • tiffany says:

      wow!! that is SO HUGE!!!! what an inspiration you’ve been and how amazing to have them tell you! thanks for reading and what is your blog?? xo, t.

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